My boys usually dress like slobs. I do buy them nice clothes, which they either ruin immediately or never wear. They have brand-new clothes (some even with tags attached) hanging in their closets, but they daily choose stuff with holes and stains. I want to force them to wear a wardrobe disclaimer that would read something like "I am not neglected or unloved, I just choose to dress this way".
My fashion frustrations with my boys go way back:
When my middle son was 4, we drove up to St. Louis to visit our good friends. I was excited to leave all his ratty clothes home and pack the clothes I wanted him to wear including adorable matching striped red shirt that matched his baby brother. Unfortunately, he was going through a phase where he refused to wear anything w/ a collar except to church. We compromised- he wore the shirt to church, and then changed into a t-shirt for sight-seeing later in the afternoon.
|Check us out in our post-church clothes. Notice baby brother's shirt.|
I can't even remember exactly what, but he got caught doing some sort of four-year-old mischief. Since we were busy sight-seeing w/ another family, "time-out" was not an option and I needed a quick discipline idea. I pulled the red shirt out of the diaper bag and told him that he had to wear it for 20 minutes. It worked so well that through-out the week, whenever he was naughty, he'd have to wear the shirt.
After the trip, we reviewed our photos and the poor kid is wearing the shirt quite a bit-the zoo, the Arch, dinner, historical sites etc.
The shirt eventually got handed down to his little brother (who actually didn't mind it), but even he has out grown it. I cleaned out my boys closet and got rid of 2 large trash bags of clothes. However, I just couldn't bring myself to donate this shirt, which we have lovingly named the "Red Striped Shirt of Shame". Now this shirt just makes me a little nostalgic for my naughty four-year old.
He still has those big hazel eyes and dimples, but sadly the blond bowl hair-cut is gone and he will start middle school in a few weeks.